A few weeks ago I met up with an old friend who pleasantly surprised me with one of his responses (towards what I was saying).
We were in the topic of a few things, and in one particular topic (about a person) which I wasn’t too happy about and went on rambling most of it… He interrupted me, “What are his strengths?”.
Just that one sentence was enough for me to ‘wake up’ and reflect on how I’ve been approaching my thoughts and words. Sure, I had every reason to be feeling that way about that person, for me to express how I feel, knowing I’m not perfect too (never thought I was). And sure, I do give credit and positive remarks about things and people – where they are due… But sometimes, I admit, I allow my temporary emotions takeover my good (heart).
I often get reminded by my parents about this – to think and be positive, to be grateful, to be 大方 and 看开… But it’s nice to have someone else remind of you this at times.
And indeed, I don’t want to be a complainer because you become what you always think, say, and do.
Though not completely related, I’d like to share this post (which my mom first shared with me):
Jack Ma says, “Please tell your children that the world is changing every day and no one is going to wait for you in the past. When lighter was invented, matches slowly disappeared. When calculator was created, abacus was to fade away. When digital camera was designed, the market of negative film no longer existed. When direct market selling/internet-based selling arises, traditional marketing declines. When smartphone with 4G (wireless internet access) was introduced to the world, you no longer need to turn on your computer at home. When WeChat and WhatsApp (mobile text/voice/video messaging) are developed, traditional text messaging is no longer as popular as before. Let’s not to blame “Who took over Whose business.” It’s only because people are more adjustable and adaptable to new ideas and changes in the world.
Someone asks Jack Ma, “What is your secret for success?” He says, “Really simple… I am doing (action) while you’re only watching.”
Please remember that the world keeps changing every day. If you don’t change, you’ll be left behind. You reap what you sow with your time. If you spend time to drink, you may become an alcoholic. If you spend time to complain, you may become a blamer. If you spend time to beautify yourself, you may become a pretty girl/handsome guy. If you spend time to stay healthy, you may enjoy a healthy good life. If you spend time to be picky, you may become a ‘mean’ person. If you spend time to learn, you may gain wisdom. If you spend time with your family, you may foster a warm and loving relationship with your loved ones.
Of all the above, what hit me the most was ‘You reap what you sow with your time.’ Which is basically, ‘you become what you always think, say, and do.’
In my blog I am upfront about acknowledging and writing about my weaknesses, but it is also my wish to see myself improve and grow, as I later look back on these posts.
Here’s to rambling and complaining less, and instead strive forward with only positive, good thoughts, speech, and actions.